- Say what you need to say.
- Do what you need to do.
- See who you need to see.
- Enjoy every minute that you have together.
Talk to each other about how your PALS can continue to contribute to the household without getting on your nerves. I don't know if you have children, but if you do, think back to when they were 3 or 4 and learning to dress themselves. It wasn't perfect, but they learned independence. The same principle applies here. Allow your PALS the dignity of doing what they can, gracefully pick up the bits that get dropped (if necessary) and then let the rest go. You'll have lots of time to clean it up (and think about how you would probably do it over if you had another chance!) later.
If there are things that are really important to you, just tell them. It wasn't easy, but I got really picky, really quick, about anything that took me away from having fun with Bill!